Every man has experienced it, though many refuse to admit that it bothers them in the slightest – rejection. Chances are you’ve pulled out all the stops to get a woman to go out with you, perhaps even just talk to you, and after all that trying – nothing, nothing at all but a cold shoulder and an icy one at that.
Rejection affects the best of us. But it doesn’t have to, at least not as often. Perhaps you’re experiencing it now because it’s safe to say that you’re unaware of the numerous things that can make you more sexually attractive to women. Having an idea of what women look for in their men definitely helps.
Being slightly sullen is alright but not being moody and depressed.
Save your smile for the right occasion – don’t flash it too often or she might think that you aren’t as dominant, i.e. masculine, as she’d have liked.
Scientists – they’re rarely wrong and when they are, they will learn from it and do better next time, at least most of the time. According to the University of British Columbia, women are most attracted to proud, powerful men – and even men who look ashamed – with broody looks.
Happiness, for all its virtues, seems to take a backseat to gloom, so brood away in a masculine way, but don’t look depressed because this doesn’t seem to do much for the fairer sex. Moreover, it’s not much fun either to be with a man who appears to carry all the burdens in the world.
Being bold enough to wear a red or pink shirt in opportune occasions.
According to Jim Pfaus, Ph.D., at Concordia University, “Red is one of the colours that, depending on the background contrast, causes longer orienting reflexes, in which you look abruptly at a novel feature in the environment.”
This means that wearing red could make women more likely to look at you, but there’s more to wearing red, as it makes men look more powerful, and therefore more dominant and masculine – qualities women look for in men.
Being in the know when it comes to women but discreet about it.
What men don’t know about women could fill the Grand Canyon several times over. This is something women have come to accept, but it doesn’t mean they’re pleased about it – not one bit.
This is exactly why you need to know things about women, and in a subtle manner, let them know you know it – subtlety is the key here and it unlocks a treasure-trove of wonders.
Did you know that women buy more cars than men, that female mechanics average salaries one-third higher than male mechanics or that one in ten women has never had an orgasm?
These are things you should know about women and you need to work on dropping them into the conversation when you get a chance, but in a tactful way that doesn’t make you come across as though you rehearsed beforehand.
Being fit, healthy and having a strong immune system.
Having a strong immune system means you’re packed with testosterone, the hormone of manliness. Women, according to studies conducted by researchers at Abertay University and Wayne State University, rank men with strong immune systems higher than men with weak immune systems in terms of sexual attractiveness – basically, if your immune system is strong, women are much more likely to find you sexually attractive, so look for natural ways to boost your testosterone levels.
But there are more benefits to having a strong immune system and truckloads of testosterone pumping through your system, because researchers at Wayne State University also found that men with high testosterone levels were better able to take control of the conversation with women, plus they were more assertive, and this increased their success rates.
Being inquisitive, earnest and enthusiastic to know about things, life, love and women.
Women love inquisitiveness, so ask about her, her friends, her mum and keep her at the centre of attention at all times – she wants to be wanted on many levels, not only physically and sexually, so pay attention to her emotions, her intellect and her interests.
However, you need to be earnest and take a genuine interest – or at least become wickedly adept at faking one – because women have a tendency to see through superficiality far better than men.
Being hygienic and smelling just as a real man should.
“Women are attracted to the ‘right’ body smells, which can be a mix of one’s natural scent and soap, scented deodorant, or scents from perfumes,” says Pfaus.
If you’ve ever watched nature documentaries, you’d realise that females determine suitable mates on a number of factors and good hygiene generally denotes good health.
Since you’re taking care of yourself, you’re more likely to make a suitable mating partner – think of yourself as a bird of paradise, albeit without the pretty feathers and the manic prancing.
You will still meet women who might not be drawn to you. However, instead of feeling bad for yourself, take it as a challenge and a learning experience to be a better man and the person you really are.