What To Drink On A Date

What Drink Should You Drink On A Date?

Dates are always a nervous affair. It can be tricky picking out the right place to go, an environment that both of you will enjoy, and that you won’t be too nervy at. Alcohol can be a great way to help both parties relax once you are there, and a drink or two can normally help an evening run more smoothly. However, picking the right drink can sometimes be difficult. If you’re a guy, sometimes beer isn’t the best choice, and if you’re a girl, you don’t want to be drinking a bottle of wine on your own. Often, the occasion dictates that a different drink is appropriate depending on the circumstance of each date.

First Date – Cocktails

Although sometimes they can be expensive, cocktails are the perfect option for a first date. They are fun, tasty and importantly strong! Seeing an intricate cocktail mixed by an expert bartender can be a great ice breaker! Watching an expert mixologist put together a number of ingredients to make your date a colourful drink can be fun, and can help get the night off to as good start.

Romantic Meal At Home – Bottle Of Wine

A romantic meal at home can occasionally be a big step. Nailing the right meal can be tricky; what if your partner likes something you don’t? What kind of cook are you? Do you want to spend so much time in the kitchen, not concentrating on your date. As well as getting the meal spot on, getting the right wine can also be difficult.  Although most guys might like a beer, wine has always been considered to be a girl’s best friend, so a decent bottle is usually always a winner. However, getting the right one is where the problem kicks in, the wine has to go with the meal, as well as being one your partner likes. A bit of research beforehand is always welcomed. Typically a Chablis or Sauvignon Blanc is a winner with white meat, where as a nice Merlot or Chiraz works well with red meat. However, never go for the cheapest, as a poor choice of wine can ruin a good meal, and it will show you up as being cheap!

Fine Dining (Special Occasion) – Prosecco or Champagne

The pricing of champagne can make you feel a bit uncomfortable, but if it’s for a special occasion why not push the boat out? A Prosecco can often work well too. If you are heading out to a top restaurant why not splash out on the bubbly? It always shows just how much you care, as well as that you’re not afraid to loosen the purse strings for the right person.

Party – Spirit and Mixer

Going to a party can be a drinking minefield. It’s key not to get overly ‘merry’ as you can occasionally embarrass yourself. But by having a drink both you and your partner will probably enjoy the do more. A spirit and a mixer usually works best for a party, as it’s easy to differentiate which is yours. It can also be a good talking point if you show up at a party with a rather unusual bottle of spirit.

An Evening At Home – Beer, Wine, Whatever You Fancy

Sometimes there is nothing nicer than chilling out at home with your loved one. It can either be an early date, or something that you decide to do later down the line. However, nailing the right drink is still essential, you don’t want to go too strong and get a bit too tipsy, but you also want to enjoy yourself. You don’t even have to pick the right drink as your partner; just make sure that you both enjoy yourselves!

Alcohol is not always a necessity when it comes to dates. Some people never want it, but for the range of dates selected, give this list of suggested drinks some thought.

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No karma for cheating ex

Dear Agony Aunt Nicola

My marriage broke up with my husband cheating on me, this was a while ago but I still feel bitter about it as I caught him. I was devasted and confided in my friends and family who were supportive and told me I was much better than her. They told me karma would pay him back and he will regret leaving me. A week ago I went to a party and bumped into him, we spoke and it turns out he married the woman he cheated on me with and they have three beautiful kids. His new wife had landed a dream job and the family are moving abroad. I felt very strange about it as I was shocked his life has turned around for the best without me. Was it completely wrong what I was told by my friends and family? Phoebe

Hi Phoebe

It’s not that you were given the wrong advice I can see why your friends and family were saying this to make you feel better and get you through a difficult time. Break-ups bring a lot of grief and trauma to deal with, they did have your best interest at heart and thought by telling you that it was the right thing to do and would help you the most to hear. At the time you probably couldn’t believe life without him so they wanted to give you some hope that he may eventually want to come back to you. They didn’t want you to feel broken or unattractive so they said you were much better than her and he was mad to leave you. They more than likely believed everything they were telling you was true as when relationships have ended there’s still a chance of rekindling after some time out. Those who are reading this will be anxious that they too will be given wrong messages but it’s worth remembering that all relationships ends in various ways with different outcomes. It’s always best not to dwell on the past and to move on with the new positive things in your life.

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Little Known Benefits Of Kissing


When it comes to being with the one that you love, one of the most common acts of affection that many couples share on a daily basis is that of kissing. That could be a long loving deep kiss but it is more likely to be a quick peck on the cheek, but both are ways of showing affection for their partner. Although kissing is commonly seen as nothing more than an act of affection between two people who love each other, there is much more to the physical act than meets the eye.

There are many important benefits associated with kissing. These benefits range from an increase of one’s metabolism to the extension of one’s life. Everyone can clearly recall getting a kiss from their mother to make things better. Here is a list of some of the other little known benefits associated with kissing.

Teeth Cleaning

While there is obviously no replacement to the basic concept of brushing your teeth daily, what most people do not realise is that the act of kissing is capable of breaking down plaque as well as preventing cavities. The act of kissing causes the creation of saliva in the mouth which is used by the body in order to clean the teeth and supply them with the necessary building blocks needed for the rebuilding of tooth enamel.

A Facelift

Believe it or not, recent studies have shown that the act of kissing can help one to retain one’s youth. While countless individuals seek out processes such as Botox and acid peels in order to give themselves a younger looking face, all that they really need to do is to kiss on a regular basis. The activity of kissing literally uses 30 different facial muscles. Think of it as an exercise routine for the face.

Increase Metabolism

Many doctors have also found that simply kissing can help you to lose weight. Most people who lean in for that lovely act of affection can feel their heart beating faster and stronger than it does even during a workout. You are not simply imagining this.  Your heart literally beats faster, releasing adrenaline, hormones and chemicals into the bloodstream. All of these help to increase your metabolism and burn more calories in the process. Studies have shown that you burn calories when you kiss.

Natural Vaccination

When you kiss somebody else, not only are you swapping your spit, but you are also swapping germs. This act is a natural form of vaccination which can help you build up immunity against various illnesses. This does not mean to go out and kiss somebody who is developing a flu or cold, because all you will do is get sick.

Decreases Stress

Kissing is a natural antidepressant. When a person kisses, they release a chemical into the body known as oxytocin. This chemical is released as a manner of improving one’s sexual experience as well as their orgasm. This feel-good experience associated with oxytocin helps to reduce our stress as well as our cholesterol levels.

Natural Pain Relief

When you kiss somebody, the body naturally releases endorphins which many doctors consider to be more powerful than any type of morphine available on the market today.  Endorphin is an excellent natural pain reliever that is very safe to the body.

It is hard to believe that kissing has so many benefits you wouldn’t automatically think of. If you haven’t got a partner to kiss, maybe now is the time to find one!


Author Byline: Alberto Lagos works as a freelancer writer and is the chief writer of dating-odessa-girls.com. He enjoys writing about dating advice and helping people find long-term relationships with girls from CIS Cities like Odessa. Alberto believes that new technologies helps people to build strong relationships.

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First Holy Communion Etiquette

First Holy Communion Etiquette

There are a few guidelines to be followed considering the fact that the First Holy Communion is a rite of passage. Here are some of the most important points to keep in mind for this special occasion:

Sending Out Invites

More often than not, the extended family does not have to be invited to the First Holy Communion unless the child is particular close to a few family members or individuals who have impacted the child’s religious development. Those who should be invited to the church ceremony and party afterwards include grandparents, siblings, close aunts, uncles, cousins and godparents.

Guest Invites: Those In Your Congregation

Traditionally, guests who are invited by the parents of a child who is receiving their first Holy Communion includes family members, close friends and members of the church. For those events that include a part after the communion, it is a good practice to extend an invite for both the events – the communion as well as the party as the same time.

If the invitation has a religious theme, it is recommend that it be sent a minimum of 6 weeks in advance from the main event. This way, you can get a headcount of the number of guests who will attend the event and ensure that there is enough room for everyone on that day.

Guest Invites: Those Not In Your Congregation

You can also extend an invitation to family and friends who are neither religious nor familiar with the customs of the church. It is perfectly fine to do that. The only thing you need to ensure is that the priest is informed in advance if many people are invited from outside the congregation.

Guests need to be instructed to stay in their seats during a part of the service where adults are invited to take communion after the ceremony for the children. It is not considered impolite to explain every part of the service as it only assures and reassures the guests that they will not get confused or awkward during the event.
The invitations should always include both the name and address of the church as well as the time and location details for the first Holy Communion and the party afterwards. This is importance because some guests may choose to skip the church ceremony andthe celebration that is after that. Always ask for an RSVP if you are having a party, as this will help you plan the various details and logistics well in advanced based on the number of guests who will attend the party.

Invites: The Child’s Friends

The First Holy Communion is not an event to which a child’s entire class should be invited. Make a list of their closest friends and sent an invite to them and their parents. You can also invite friends whose families attend your church to join you in celebrating at the party after the ceremony. In those churches where the First Holy Communion is a group event, you can plan a celebration after the event. However, if you do this, you need to be prepared to gift all the children who are close in age and

Since most churches have groups of children who are close in age and receive their First Communion on the same day, you may consider a group celebration after the ceremony, either at the church or another venue. If you agree to this, however, you should also be prepared to give gifts to all the children who are celebrating the event.

Attire: Children

Having followed the etiquette when it comes to sending our invitations, the next thing to pay attention to is the ensemble. Boys traditionally wear dark-colored suits with a white shirt and tieat their First Holy Communion and girls traditionally wear white dresses, with an optional veil or hairpiece.

Attire: Guests

Guests should be advised to dress respectfully as well. Though formal attire is not mandatory for those attending the event, they need to dress traditionally. Regular Sunday church attire is appropriate for any First Holy Communion. For me, this ranges from slacks and a collared shirt, to a suit and tie and women should stick to business casual attire, for example a dress or a dress shirt and slacks/skirt. Tennis shoes, flip flops, short skirts, bare midriffs, low-cut tops or hats should never be worn to the First Holy Communion ceremony.

Maintaining Silence

The First Holy Communion is a time for togetherness, but it is not a party. Everyone must be respectful of the importance of the event by turning off their cell phones throughout the event. Any conversation (persona;/private/mundane) must be completed before entering the church to avoid disturbances. Chatting during the service is forbidden for the same reason.

Gifting: Within The Family

Putting in some time, effort and thought will be nice as these gifts commemorate a big event in a child’s life. Close family members give religious-themed gifts and cash. Some of the most common presents include, but are not limited to fancy rosary beads, Bibles, religious medals, plaques and jewelry (do check who is giving the cross and chain). There are a wide selection of bracelets, necklaces and earrings available online for girls who are receiving their First Holy Communion. For boys, there are name bracelets that are designed exclusively for this occasion. For older children, more sophisticated styles are appropriate.

Other gift ideas includerosary keepsake boxes, statuettes of Mary or girls in white, holy water fonts, photo albums and photo frames in silver or wood. These types of gifts are personal and are often reserved for those closest to the child. More than several small gifts, one big present is considered appropriate.

As far as cash goes, family members like aunts, uncles, grandparents and godparents should give more money than someone who is not as close to the child, say a family friend or a neighbor.

Gifting: Guests

Guests must always present the child a gift for the First Holy Communion, as it is customary. People who do not know the child too well or have not seen them in years usually give cash. Money is a more appropriate gift, especially if they want to avoid giving the child something they might already have. Regarding the amount of money a guest can give the child for their First Holy Communion, it varies a lot depending on the standards of the family and their location. The etiquette is different for those who are family members or close to the family as discussed previously.

If the parents are also hosting a party either as a catered event at home or at a restaurant, it is a nice gesture to gift the child a bit more than you would at an event that is casual. You can at least include enough to cover the cost of your food. If you are not sure about how much to give, check either with someone in the family or congregation regarding what the best amount would be.


A gift in cash form should be presented in a card, as this is the most appropriate way to go about it. There are several First Communion-themed cards available commercially that come with a holder for the money. Another option is to buy a savings bond, timing it in such a way that its maturity coincides around the time the child attends college. This is a great way to spend less and give more. A small, token such as a religious-themed bookmark, a picture frame, or a small stuffed animal, can also accompany cash. In this way, you can give the child something they can look forward to and enjoy now, while the parents save the cash for later.

Last but not least, do not include any gift registry information in the invites. It is not considered appropriate for The First Holy Communion. Besides, most guests will follow tradition by bringing a small, religious gift.

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Should I go on holiday with my ex

Dear Agony Aunt Nicola

Over the last year my boyfriend and I have been saving for an exotic holiday, booked for this summer. Recently we’ve not been getting on and since split up. Unfortunately we can’t get a refund on our holiday so have no choice for both of us to still go together. I am unsure if I can cope with going on holiday with him knowing we’ve not been getting on. It could also be confusing if we feel like we are a couple again but upon return go our separate ways? Charlotte

Hi Charlotte

It’s understanding why neither of you would want to miss out on a holiday that you have spent money on. Given you know each other well it may be you can enjoy this break even if you are not involved romantically.

Ask yourself how much of the holiday would be dependent on you being together, how will you manage this given you say you haven’t been getting on?
Are you able to put your differences aside while you are away, or do you think it’s likely being away could make things more tense?

It’s best to take these scenarios on board and it may be a good to think about how you would deal with them in advance.

If you had a bad fall out on the trip how would you deal with it? if you are both miserable you’re far away from home, if one of you decided to have a holiday fling? or if you slipped back into couple mode or go ill.

Think this through by yourself and also discuss this with your ex together. figure out ways to avoid bad situations that can arise, the last thing you want to feel is distressed on holiday.

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My boyfriend loves sex toys too much

Dear Agony Aunt Nicola

My boyfriend shall I say is a little adventurous when it comes to having sex. I like the old fashioned way of intimacy but after a handle of years into our relationship he started introducing sex toys. At first I was surprised because it was all new to me but I guess I went along with it to make him happy more than anything. Without going into too much detail his collection of sex toys is becoming more of an obsession where there’s so much of it. I feel it’s a hindrance to me as I simply don’t enjoy it not to mention finding somewhere to store a dildo! How can I tell him enough is enough without losing the sex drive. Trish

Hi Trish

Enjoying sex with your partner is important and there needs to be an understanding that you each know what the other enjoys. You have to be honest with him and tell him you don’t like his excessive use of sex toys. Maybe plan some days/nights when you get intimate that the dildo stays in the drawer or other sex toys are out of the way. Explain that you want to enjoy being intimate with him on your own, suggest spicing up your sex positions to help. Firstly tell him your thoughts and find a way to accommodate his interest at particular times without being too much of a routine. Getting the best out of sex is when it’s spontaneous and you don’t want to lose this. Sometimes you have to please a partner but when the it’s one sided it’s never going to work.

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Am I having an open relationship?

Dear Agony Aunt Nicola

For the past two months I have been dating a guy that I really like but I feel he could be seeing other women too. We’ve been physical virtually from the start but now we’re spending more time with each other and going for meals, trips out surely he should be committed to me only. He did tell me at first he doesn’t want to live in each others pockets or get too intense because he’s had some past relationships that ended up in disaster because of this. I appreciate his worries but at the same time I need to know what’s going on and if i’m the only woman in his life. Faye

Hi Faye

It’s never easy when you are in the early days of a relationship and the question is where do we stand, are we official or not. As much as you feel that you are committed to him you need to find out that he is of the same opinion and the only way is to ask him. It’s no good if you feel threatened by another woman that he could also be dating as this can make you become paranoid which will also give off negatives vibes to your date. He needs to be honest to let you know if he wants an open relationship or he has decided that he will only date you. It’s not good to get romantically involved where one is serious and the other is not, it’s best to find out sooner than many months down the line where you could get hurt.

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Five Ways For Women To Be Better Lovers

Five Ways To Be A Better Lover – For Women


Sex is an essential, physical expression of love! However, from a woman’s perspective, it is always seen in the context of a meaningful, lasting, love relationship. It is more of an emotional experience and how the partners feel about each other determines and influences their sexual desire and performance level. For a woman it fulfills her womanhood, satisfies her sexual drive, reassures her of being loved and above all, serves as a way of expressing her love and commitment for her man.

The art of being good in bed is a marvelous skill that will result in you and your man feeling sexy, passionate about your relationship, especially when you live far away from each other. Once you master these, sex will be an awesome experience for both of you!

The following are 5 enticing tips for women to be better in bed:

  1. Erotic massage

Arousing a man is rarely a difficult and tough job. A great way to arouse and excite your man and show him that you really love and care for him is by an erotic, sensuous and titillating massage. An erotic and seductive massage can stimulate your man’s sexual desire.

Caress and fondle your man gently with your hands or with a massage oil. With your tantric touch you can send his pleasure and satisfaction soaring. This little sweet torture builds your man’s anticipation and when you finally set out to make love every move and touch of yours will be extra delicious for him. Begin by stroking with your hands then with your hair followed by your breasts to quickly excite and tantalise him.

Make him lie on his back and start massaging his legs, abdomen, inner thighs, chest and nipples. Now pour some massage oil on his penis and testicles and gently massage and squeeze this sensitive area. An intimate massage in this erogenous zone will make him go crazy with excitement.

  1. Initiate sex

It is men who usually initiate sex. However it will be a pleasant surprise for a man if you take the turn to initiate sex. Men really adore and fantasise about a woman who knows what she really wants and knows how to get it. Use sexting as a powerful tool to turn him on, when you are not together. If you initiate the sexual spark you will be able to please him better and you will also feel more pleasurable and enjoyable.

  1. Take the charge

Generally men like to take the lead in sex. However they also love when their partners take the charge and lead from time to time. Your confident and assertive approach towards sex will in fact surprise and excite him. You can start your fantasy play by seducing him, stripping him and deciding on the positions.

When you take the lead you are showing him that you are really enjoying yourself and trying to making him enjoy too. Especially if he struggles with performance anxiety, or other sex related issues your enthusiasm will be highly appreciated.

This reversal role will excite him more and also enable you to explore and express your powerful sexuality.

  1. Look good in bed

Wear sexy lingerie that enhances your sex appeal and makes you look good too. As arousal starts with the eyes it is essential that you look good and sexy for your partner. Seeing the voluptuous curves of your body through the thin and flimsy night dress can set his pulses rising.

Hence make sure you wear sexy clothes that complement your body. You can also go a bit extreme and dress outrageously as men are turned on by what they see. Remember that even sexy underwear can tease and tickle your man to give the most exciting and pleasurable experience. Yes, sexy lingerie can make you look incredibly dazzling and enhance your sex life.

  1. Try new positions

Never go through the same moves and same positions each time. Be creative and try out new postures and positions for sex. This will make sex more exciting and thrilling for both of you. Experimenting and trying out new positions and seeing how they feel like is a real fun experience.

Use of sex toys to discover his erogenous regions can stimulate him and add extra pleasure to his orgasm. Leave your comfort zone and be creative in your sex life by experimenting and experiencing new erotic positions.

If you want to be better in bed make him realise that sex is more than physical closeness – it is an emotional adventure and pleasurable exploration.

There you have it – five great ways for women to be better in bed, and as I said before, once you master these, sex will be an awesome experience for both of you and your partner!


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How can I make my boyfriend lose weight?

Dear Agony Aunt Nicola

When I first a relationship with my boyfriend he was toned, slim and physically fit but now after a couple of years he’s become to put it bluntly fat. The problem I have is that I am beginning to find him unattractive which doesn’t help the situation with the physical part of the relationship. I still get on with him and we work well together but i’m worried it’s not going to be enough and that it could lead to a breakup. I do want to be with him but he needs to change his diet, stop being lazy, get motivated and lose weight or he will lose me. Kelly

Hi Kelly

Overtime couples can feel relaxed and comfortable in their relationships so much they don’t feel they need to go out of their way to make themselves appear attractive. It happens to women more often so perhaps you can relate or understand this? Another contributing factor to weight gain is also if people are feeling a bit low so look to food that gives them instant comfort for the short term. Find out the reason for his weight gain first, he could be so comfortable with your relationship he is unaware of his weight being an issue or ask him if he’s got any worries or needs some motivation in life. Tell him how much you care and that you value your relationship and want to make him happy which could give him the boost he needs. Also suggest doing some sports activities that you could enjoy together as well as help him get fit, probably the best solution! Get to the root cause and pin point what’s going, once you find out then work together as a couple which in turn the future will look promising.

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How niche has internet dating become?

How niche has internet dating become?

With more and more people joining online dating sites and it becoming more acceptable to do so, has meeting someone on the web become easier?

Websites like Eharmony and Match brought online dating world to the masses some years ago, and now singles have the possibility to find a partner who shares their interests. The chances of romantically meeting someone in a café or on a night out are much slimmer than they used to be. Why trouble yourself with the nerve racking experience of finding someone in a public place when you can do it in the comfort of your home.

This big boom in online dating has undoubtedly helped cultures where it is difficult to meet someone new, as well as singles who do not have the time or resources to meet people.

Online dating has developed so much further past the ‘profile pic.’ Customers are now asked to fill out masses of personal details to help the computer algorithms crunch to find the perfect match.

Along with niche dating sites, finding somebody over the web has become much more of a science. If you are of a certain religion or ethnicity there will be a website for you. The industry has boomed and there has been an astonishing number of niche sites like bbw singles, single parent dating and Millionaire Dating. The opportunities to find someone who shares your interests you are much higher than previously. Traditionally dating profiles have been for workaholics, aged between 25-35 who simply don’t have the time to meet someone; whereas now the possibilities are endless.

There are still your ‘quick fix’ solutions. Tinder remains one of the most popular dating apps in the world, due to its easy accessibility and free download. Its easy interface means you simply have to swipe right and hope for match. The odds of finding love, however, might not be great.

When you take your game seriously, you should consider a site like eHarmony. It takes online dating very seriously and even took out a patent on their Compatibility Matching System. they have worked on their questionnaire for 35 years; these kind of sites really want to match you up with someone who’s character actually suits you, as a member you must spend time actually answering a personality test.
There is such a wider variety of sites and such a wide range of specification for finding matches. BeautifulPeople only allows you to register if other members deem your appearance to be good enough. As shallow as it sounds, it is just a way of increasing the odds and making it easier for people to get matches. In comparison Tastebuds.fm allows you to find a partner based on music taste.

Even if dating sites are not your thing, as they are possibly a bit daunting for some you can find something more anonymous by going to online games or chatrooms. Going online can even help with life decisions, and you can invent a new name for yourself and go spontaneously into conversation with other people. Often online games match chat rooms where you can easily and anonymously let your feelings run free.

There is no doubt that the world of dating has changed. As people become busier and busier it is harder to find that one special person, so perhaps the vast opportunities of online dating are a step in the right direction.

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