Dear Nicola, For the past year I have been in a relationship which is full of arguments pretty much on a daily basis. Even though we both love eachother very much it’s actually wearing us down and i’m concerned at some point in the future it will end us being together. We are both fiery people and strong minded which doesn’t help as we battle against who has the last word on even though most silly point or topic of conversation. Please can you give me some advice on how to stop having these continuous arguments to save our relationship. Thanks Faye
The first thing that springs to my mind is ‘communication’. With every relationship you need communication as without it this relationship will be going no where. It doesn’t help with the fact you both have strong characters, feels to me from what you say there is some rivalry going on with who has the last word. You need to sit down with your partner and explain you can’t keep arguing, ask him what’s on his mind and if there is anything that is annoying him to trigger off the arguments whether it’s him or you starting it. Once you get to the root of the cause, if there is a worry or concern then you can deal with it. Some helpful tips would be for both of you to come to an agreement and work together to stop the arguing such as thinking before you speak, the tone of your voice and being honest about any issues or concerns.