Dear Agony Aunt Nicola
Trying to date while suffering with anxiety is proving very hard for me. I had been diagnosed recently even though i’ve had brief attacks over the years. I am now single and looking at online dating but since my anxiety attacks I feel like this could ruin any chance of going out on dates. I’m fine talking to potential dates behind a computer or even on the phone but when it comes to the thought of meeting up I clam up and start panicking. I don’t want to be single forever and would like some ideas on tips to help me with my condition when dating. Henry
There are various natural techniques to use to keep yourself calm using meditation. Try something like Yoga which is a good relaxing exercise for the mind body and soul. This can be done in the privacy of your own home or in a group environment whichever you feel comfortable with. Give this a go before you know you have arranged to go on a date you may be surprised. There are other techniques such as Primordial Sound Meditation (PSM, Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) classes, Zen is also referred to as Zazen, which literally means “seated meditation.” all could be useful to you. Dating can be daunting for the average person but it can heightened for those with anxiety. You never know dating in itself could be a good form of relaxation too, you may find your dates may have a calming effect on you once you get into conversation face to face. If all fails do seek guidance with your doctor if your anxiety is stopping you from living a normal life.