Dear Agony Aunt Nicola
I’ve been single for a long time, it’s got me to now as I don’t seem to find someone who’s interested romantically. I have tried to ask women out on dates on numerous occasions but usually they would rather just be friends, I end up with more female friends than guys! I am of average looks, smart, have a good job and financially secure I don’t understand why I can’t find a girlfriend. Is there anything I could be doing wrong? Tom
When you go looking for a date it’s more than likely not going to happen, where as most people find that when they least expect it romance is just around the corner. Without knowing your techniques I can’t say if you’re doing anything particularly wrong but at the same time you must be yourself and if people don’t like that then tough. Romance tends to develop further through friendship which is the ideal way for a long lasting relationship so don’t give up just yet. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, even if you have your eye on a potential date let it blossom naturally.