I have been in a relationship with my partner for 6 years and it’s now got to the point where I feel it’s not going anywhere and would like to end it. The problem is my partner has no knowledge there is anything wrong and he would be shocked. I would like some advice on how to end this relationship without making it worse and without feeling guilty. Helen
Hi Helen, there will be no easy way to end your relationship as there will be guaranteed upset from your partner. The best advice I can give you would be in how to approach telling him you don’t want to continue with the relationship and the way in which you tell him. Set a date to tell him, hopefully sooner than later! Make sure there are no distractions around you where you can be interrupted – perhaps the privacy of your own home? somewhere quiet will do. Firstly begin with telling your partner how the relationship has not been progressing for you and your exact feelings or concerns. Then go on to tell him why you are being open about your feelings and that you feel it better being single again. Be prepared for his reaction but bear in mind sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and stick to your guns. Explain to him there’s nothing worse than being in a relationship you don’t want to be in, as it wastes not only your time but his time also. From this you are setting him free to find a new love and in time you will both look back and know it was for the best.