When we step out into the great unknown of online dating it can be difficult to know where to start and how to put the best foot forward.
It’s normal to wonder if we should let all our faults and insecurities hang out, or keep our profiles more guarded and reserved. It’s also natural to wonder how important physical attraction to a picture in an online profile actually is, or contemplate our options for increasing our relationship success.
While there are exercises you can do to stay fit and look as attractive as possible to potential partners, what will really set you apart is cultivating your own unique personality to help you craft an online profile that wows potentials.
Here is some dating advice that may help you find your Mr or Mrs Right.
Dress to impress
This doesn’t just mean only wearing designer or expensive clothing, it means dressing authentically to attract others who appreciate your unique sense of style.
Iris Apfel, the 95 year old New York City fashion icon, known for her eccentric outfits and unique personal style, famously noted that if you live long enough, everything old becomes new again. This is a truism that those of a certain age would do good to accept and incorporate into their wardrobes.
For those of a certain age, there may be a few things in closets that now have vintage appeal. Work to mix and match those classics with more modern cuts, designs, colors and wardrobe staples to create a unique look. Wrap your own past with the present to create a sense of timeless dressing and classic accessorizing.
Share Your Hobbies
One of the best places to meet others of like interests is offline and out in the real world itself. Join a volunteer group, connect with other enthusiasts on a dating site, or just cruise the local newspaper looking for activities that align with your interests.
The more active you are in the community, the more likely you are to find others who are as active and engaged as you. You can connect over shared values and activities and then friendships can grow from there.
Not to say that one can’t connect over shared values online as well, but if you don’t know what you like doing outside of online dating then you won’t have anything to put on your profile, right?
Read and Tell
You’re more likely to find a compatible partner if you both enjoy the same type of entertainment. If you’re a reader you may be surprised to learn that reading is a fairly uncommon activity.
If you’re one of the lucky few who participate in this daily habit, be sure to share your favorite books in your online profiles. You may also want to link people to your Goodreads account where they can see your recommended books and reviews and get a better feel for your favorite genres, and by extension, your personality.
If you’re consistently striking out when it comes to online dating then it could be that you need to break out of your box and try something different. This could mean either changing your profile to reflect more of your personality, or putting yourself out there and talking to people who don’t fit what you are typically looking for in a potential partner.
Whatever you do, do it with gusto. Try throwing caution to the wind, expand your search criteria, and share more of yourself that may appeal to others. You never know when the perfect person may be logging on just to find you.