Dear Agony Aunt Nicola
For the past two years i’ve been in a relationship that I feel is getting tedious and generally boring. My partner has no get up and go and is quite happy to sit at home playing on his computer where as I would love to go out and about such as meals out, fun activities etc. To have a conversation with him is impossible as he’s only half listening while being distracted by his computer games. There’s not much communication going on so I don’t feel the point in continuing with this boring relationship, any advice would be appreciated. Chloe
The problem here is obviously lack of communication between the two of you. Ask yourself have you done the most to make him realise he could be sacrificing his relationship for his games. Talking to him when he’s half listening won’t work as he’s so engrossed in what he’s doing. When you choose your time to talk make sure it’s not while he’s gaming as he should really listen to you then. If he still doesn’t then give him an ultimatum that he can’t avoid, if you don’t make a stand now the problem will continue.