Dear Agony Aunt Nicola
I have been dating for 6 months now and met a really nice guy i’ve found a connection with, the problem is his ex is interfering in our new found relationship. Before I get too serious with this guy I want to know a) he’s totally over his exes and b) cut them off for the sake of his new relationship with me. When we go out socially his exes are always around and come up to talk to him and just make me feel really uncomfortable. He knows I feel awkward but not to the extent of how much it’s really bothering me which could affect our future together. I don’t want a silly misunderstanding to ruin what could be a good thing. Jessie
It’s never easy when there are exes lurking in the background for any new relationship. There may not be any cause for concern, there’s a reason they are exes and until you are proven otherwise I wouldn’t worry. Getting things off your chest and letting him know how you feel is the best option for you to move forward. By bottling up your feelings can only make the situation worse with your fear his exes are getting in the way. He needs to re-assure you they are not a threat in any way, he’s devoting his time to date you so try to be positive and it will all naturally fall into place.