Dear Agony Aunt Nicola
I been seeing this guy for about 4 months now. When we usually go out he pays for dinner, movies, or anything else we do. I help to pay here and there. Mostly he is the one paying. The other day, he asked that we should share the cost 50/50 and that its getting a little out of hand. We do go out every week so I can understand it can be pricey. I told him we don’t need to go out everytime. I don’t mind staying home and cook and just watch tv. No biggy. I don’t know how to take this? Because none of the guys I have been with before have asked me to go 50/50.
Don’t guys usually pay for everything. However, I don’t know his financial situation. I don’t know how these things work, thanks Jodie
It’s a difficult one as he’s offered to pay initially and because of that you naturally expected him to pay each time you went out as he seemed okay with it. He more than likely doesn’t want to make it an issue either, perhaps offer to contribute half especially if what you are doing together is costly. If you sit down and discuss with him splitting the cost or like you say not going out as much if money is tight, there are plenty of things you can do as a couple that doesn’t cost a penny! Things like picnics if the weather is good, sports like a game of tennis, punting, swimming etc there are plenty of things you can do without breaking the bank. The best thing you can do is talk about it otherwise it will only fester in to a potential argument which is no good for any new relationship.