This blog post is written by experts from Marry Brides who are giving dating advice on the 8 things to know before asking a girl out, and to answer the question what is the best way to actually approach a girl.
- Do some research
First of all, clear the overall situation up: what if she’s not even single? And if her heart is definitely free, you should know what type of guys she prefers and what type of things she is into. Maybe she isn’t keen on dating right now, maybe her mind is set on someone else – anything is possible. Discover that in advance.
- Check if she’s interested in you
Don’t rush to ask a girl of your dream for a date, study her attitude to you. Watch out how she reacts to you, like her body language and speech. Perhaps, you need to do something to awaken her curiosity?
- Pick the right time and place
You can’t just go up to her and ask whether she’d like to go out this weekend. Well, you can, but it might not work. Even if a girl likes you, she might be not in the right mood for romance. To ensure success, don’t interrupt her, yet approach her when she is more likely to be receptive, who aim for somewhere with a relaxed atmosphere instead (e.g. in a bar, or during a rest break).
- Work on your look
Naturally, you should look great anytime. But for special events, you’ll need to take double care about your looks. You must look handsome, smell good, and sound perfect. Show her you’re making an effort for her.
- Demonstrate self-confidence
Nowadays, it’s okay for a girl to take the first step and ask a guy out. However, strong confident guys are never out of fashion. The way you approach her creates her impression about you – so give her what she needs.
- Convey your intent
Feeling nervous, we often lose our communication skills. But remember what we told you about confidence. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, as they say. What do you want from her? Pre-plan how you’d like to tell her about it. Then go for it!
- Draw up a plan
In case she says “yes”, you need a clear plan of what your next step is. First dates shouldn’t be spontaneous; they work better a certain scenario. Of course, it’s important to take a girl’s interests into an account while planning your date, but have a plan and a plan B on where to take her. Make sure she’ll appreciate your idea.
- Don’t fall apart if she says “no”
As you’re a man, be a man. Rejection is also normal, just like any other parts of our dating life. There’s no need to yell “Oh why?” and act like a child whose parents didn’t buy him a present. Give her a smile and respond politely “Ok, no problem” and move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
However, she is more likely than not to say yes, so just say “Great, I will look forward to it” and move on!
I hope that has been useful dating advice for you.