Dear Agony Aunt Nicola
For the past two months I have been dating a guy that I really like but I feel he could be seeing other women too. We’ve been physical virtually from the start but now we’re spending more time with each other and going for meals, trips out surely he should be committed to me only. He did tell me at first he doesn’t want to live in each others pockets or get too intense because he’s had some past relationships that ended up in disaster because of this. I appreciate his worries but at the same time I need to know what’s going on and if i’m the only woman in his life. Faye
Hi Faye
It’s never easy when you are in the early days of a relationship and the question is where do we stand, are we official or not. As much as you feel that you are committed to him you need to find out that he is of the same opinion and the only way is to ask him. It’s no good if you feel threatened by another woman that he could also be dating as this can make you become paranoid which will also give off negatives vibes to your date. He needs to be honest to let you know if he wants an open relationship or he has decided that he will only date you. It’s not good to get romantically involved where one is serious and the other is not, it’s best to find out sooner than many months down the line where you could get hurt.
