Dear Nicola, For the past year I have been in a relationship which is unfortunately full of arguments on a daily basis. Even though we both love one another, the constant arguing is wearing us down and I’m concerned at some point in the future it will make us split up. We are both fiery people and strong minded which really doesn’t help as we constantly strive to get the last word in. Please can you give me some advice on how we can to stop having these continuous arguments with one another. Thanks Alex
The first thing that springs to my mind to solve this issue is ‘communication’. With every relationship you need communication as without it your relationship will go nowhere. It doesn’t help with you both having strong characters and no doubt strong tempers, and it strikes me from what you say there is some rivalry going on with who has the last word. You need to sit down with your partner and explain that you simply can’t keep arguing, ask him what’s on his mind and if there is anything that is annoying him to trigger off the arguments whether it’s him or you starting it. Once you get to the root of the cause, then you can deal with it. The starting point is for both of you to come to an agreement and work together to stop the arguing.