Hi Nicola, I’ve been with a lovely woman for a few months now, after many years of being single. I feel I can really connect with her but I am worried the relationship will get ruined as she doesn’t know my job as a debt collector. She thinks I am an office worker with prospects and I have hidden the truth from her. She’s a high earner and I don’t know what she sees in me. She thinks I have career prospects and I just don’t. I don’t know how to tell her I just do as I am told at work. Calum
Hi Calum, I feel for you and understand your thoughts on this but at the end of the day if she likes you then she shouldn’t judge you by what you do for a living. Bing open and honest is the key to a successful relationship, so the sooner you tell her what your job is, the better for all concerned, as if you don’t she will think you will always be dishonest. If you feel your job is not good enough for her then maybe you should consider a career change. Look for online courses or further education to broaden your horizons, but that’s only if you really want to, don’t try and change the person you are.