Dear Nicola, I live at home with my mum at the age of 38, i’ve never had a boyfriend and never dated. It sounds sad and I feel sad about it but I don’t have the confidence to get out there and meet new people. At work I feel like the joke of the office as they all know i live at home with my mum and don’t have a partner. Not only do I want a relationship or to meet someone but i don’t want to feel guilty for my mum as it’s always just been her and I. Please help, Sally
Hi Sally, It’s a tough one as many people usually have had some experience with dating or been in a relationship. The first thing to do is help get your confidence back, once you have this then you will be in a better position to date. Start by joining a club or the gym, anywhere that involves being around lots of people. You will find you will naturally meet new people and expand your social circle which will give you confidence. Also it may be worth considering online dating where you can find people that match your criteria from the comfort of your own home. Don’t worry about your mum as she will understand you have your life to live as she has decided on living hers the way she wants. Your aim should be building your confidence and once you are happier within yourself you will then be more appealing to others who want to date you.